An Educated Sub Is a Better Slut

Reading isn’t just for nerds—it’s for subs who want to kneel better, serve deeper, and make their Dommes proud.

Let me let you in on a little secret, darling.

An educated sub? Is the sexiest kind.

Not the one who’s watched hours of porn, not the one who claims to know what he wants but can’t even articulate it. No, I’m talking about the submissive who’s cracked open a book, who’s taken a workshop, who’s actually tried to understand the psychology of power exchange.

You see, I’ve been a Dominant for nearly ten years. I’ve seen them all. The curious newbies, the orgasm chasers, the ones who want to be broken without knowing how to bend.

But the ones who stay on my mind—the ones I crave to collar—are the ones who do their homework.

Because kink isn’t just an act. It’s a language. It’s etiquette. It’s intention.

When a submissive walks into my world knowing how to behave—not just in the bedroom, but when messaging me, booking me, speaking to me—that’s where the real magic begins. That’s when I want to train you, to mold you, to take you deeper than you’ve ever gone before.

But when you walk in, trying to top from the bottom, asking for things you haven’t earned, or worse—expecting me to do all the work of figuring you out? That’s when I lose interest. Fast.

This is not a guessing game. I am not your fantasy vending machine.

I expect you to come prepared. I expect you to know your desires, your limits, and how to communicate them. I expect you to have studied—not just porn, but power dynamics, consent, communication. The etiquette of being in the presence of a Dominatrix. If you want a long-term dynamic, or even just an unforgettable session, this is your responsibility.

Yes, we can explore together. Yes, I can guide you. But this is a two-player game, and I want a partner who shows up ready. Not one who’s stuck in dreamland, hoping I’ll read his mind.

You want to be owned? Then show me you're worth owning.

There are resources. Books. Blogs. Workshops like HMU in New York City. You don’t even have to leave your apartment—just type “BDSM dynamics” into a search bar and learn something that doesn’t come from Pornhub.

I’ve had submissives spend time, energy, and money to learn how to better serve. To understand what I need. To bring more to the table than a hard-on and a hope.

Those are the ones I remember. Those are the ones I crave.

So if you’re reading this and still fumbling your way through your submission, take this as your gentle—but firm—correction.

Pick up your leash, darling.

I’ll hold the other end when you’re ready.