Exploring Long-Term BDSM Dynamics For New Subs with Mistress Sasha The Destroyer
How can a new submissive get the best experience? As a Mistress I'll show you exactly what I look for in a submissive.
"You brought me where no one ever has..." are words I hear from my first session with a new submissive.
The truth is, if you allow me into your inner world, I do my best to find exactly what makes you tick and take you to places you’ve been longing to explore.
When I have my initial call with a submissive and I ask them why their past mistresses did not work out, I often hear, "I am looking for a connection; I don’t want it to feel mechanical." With that, I can empathize that not every Mistress wants to go deeper.
However, when you do find a Mistress that does want to go deeper, it is important to know how to get the experience you want.
This does not just happen. There are specific things I need from you to make our time as incredible for you as it is for someone else. These elements are: Respect, Obedience, and Openness.
Respect:
Without respect, we will NOT have trust. Without trust, we will NOT feel safe. Without safety, we will NOT go deeper. Respect is the core element I look for with all my submissives. Respect for me, my time, my expertise, and so on. Lack of respect will jeopardize meeting me in the first place.
I am lucky that I get to be picky; I only tolerate the uppermost respectful submissives.
Obedience:
Being that I have been a Mistress for over 8 years, I have developed rules and etiquette for a reason. For example, I never meet anyone I have never had a phone call with. While it may be old school and traditional, a phone call can tell me so much about you. It is also the basis for me understanding your kinky psyche that much more.
Being obedient to my rules and etiquette shows me you have the utmost respect for me, and you would like to make our time together the most pleasurable.
Openness:
I met a submissive who adored our time together, but he would not let himself continue after our first session from fear of becoming addicted to me. It is amazing how much we hold our own selves back from the things we truly desire. We sabotage our own pleasure so we can say to ourselves, “good I never have to do that again”.
A deeper connection requires being ready to open yourself up to pleasure.
Yes, it is important to know and understand your own personal boundaries. However, whether it is with myself or someone else, let yourself indulge in the pleasure you deserve.
For any new submissive looking to take on a deeper experience with a Mistress it is also important you know how to vet them. To see if they are the Mistress you are looking for. I will get into that next week.
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